What is Positive Discipline?
First I want to start by saying this blog and my words always come from a judgement free place. I fully believe we as parents make the best decisions we can with what we have at the time. Nobody is perfect, and we all make mistakes. We all are allowed to have different parenting views and philosophies. I don’t think its possible to be a parenting expert because we are all coming from different backgrounds, different experiences, different view points, and opinions. There are so many varied versions of parenting and how each individual child and family operates, there is no way that ONE way is the best way. It’s all about what works best for you and your family. With that being said, if I can offer tips and tools that might make your life a bit easier as a parent, then I want to help do that! Our motto is “Supporting families by providing tools, helping hands, and community” and our parenting classes are directly in line with that!
Two and a half years ago I had just started my Agency. As someone who never graduated college I was looking to legitimize my business every way that I could find, and I stumbled across a Certification I could take on Parenting. It sounded like it was right up my alley! So I drove 14 hours to Connecticut to take a 2 day Certification. I went just looking for the paper, and I found my heart’s work. I found all a way to share and teach all the philosophies I already had on parenting. I could not wait to bring this home to my friends, family, and community to share with them everything I had just learned.
Positive Discipline is an approach to parenting that essentially treats each child respectfully like a person, and not shame them for their behaviors. It tries to find the underlying root to each behavior so that we can be solution minded instead of punishment minded. It helps us to create all of the great qualities we want to see in our children, and helps to eliminate the negative behaviors. The main idea behind this philosophy is that children do better when they feel better. Kids are just small people trying to figure out the world. Shame, guilt, and fear are not great motivators for changed behavior or for those positive qualities we are looking for. Encouragement, empathy, respect, and the message of love getting through are far greater motivators. That doesn’t mean Positive Discipline is permissive parenting. Parenting can be a combination of both Kind and Firm at the same time. It doesn’t have to be the extremes of permissive, or authoritative. There are ways you can be kind and loving with your parenting while still remaining firm, setting boundaries, and encouraging positive wanted behaviors.
I’ll be sharing all of these wonderful tips and philosophies here in our blog for you, as well as in our Positive Discipline Full Workshops, Mini Workshops, and one on one Parent Coaching Sessions here in Toledo. This is my passion and I love being able to share it with you! Parenting is really hard and I want to help eliminate some of that stress and struggle to make your lives and your homes more calm and peaceful!